Oracy for Parents: 5 Ways to Get Children Talking at Home

If you're reading this and you're a parent, it's likely because your child's school is already investing in developing your child's oracy by putting more opportunities to talk into lessons.

If you're reading this and you're a teacher in a school, why not pass it on via your school newsletter?

No matter who you are, everyone knows how important parent to child, child to parent talk is in developing children’s vocabulary, thinking and even character. But in the busyness of life it can be hard to find the time and energy for much more than functional conversations such as, “Where did you leave your shoes? We've been helping schools improve oracy for the last 15 years, and often get asked how to use our techniques and strategies at home.  So we've put together five easy, fun ways to get better talk at kitchen tables, in the car, or just whenever you can. 

1. Would you rather…

Be shrunk to the size of a pea for a day, or grown to the size of a house for a year? Questions such as this are great for getting the imagination going and for the all-important skills of making decisions and giving reasons. As with all the suggestions here, lots of examples are available here, and you can always ask your AI of choice for more!

Would you rather be...

...chased by a bear?

...slithered on by a snake?

...kissed by a monkey

Would you rather......play snap with a crocodile?

...swim with a shark?

...lie down with a lion?

Would you prefer to...

...be sat on by a spider?

...sit on a pin?

...be pecked by a parrot?

Would you rather be...

...king or queen for one day?

...rich for your whole life?

...a superhero for a week?

Would you rather hear

...the world’s funniest joke?

...the most surprising fact?

...the world’s best story?

pupil making a point to her partner
a pupil listening to another speak

2. Strategic stupidity

Put your child in the position of being the sensible, knowledgeable one while you take on the role of being a complete idiot!

  • Use a colander as a hat, and have them talk you out of it.
  • Make a preposterous proposal, such as, “Schools should open at night instead of during the day” and have them prove you wrong.
  • Ask them why you shouldn't spend hours reading the Terms and Conditions of the video game they want to download.

By reversing the normal position of the adult being the one with the grown-up ideas, you inject a lot of humour and give your child some extra power behind their talk.

a group of boys with one of them talking

3. 59 Questions

You’ll probably have played the game, “20 questions” at some point, where one person thinks of something and the other has twenty question to guess what it is. All questions have to be answered “yes” or “no” - if I have to “maybe” or “sometimes” a question, they get that as a bonus question. With 59 questions and a bit of experience at asking good questions for narrowing down the possibilities - ‘Is it alive?”, “Is it bigger than me?” you can get to things as obscure as David Attenborough’s left big toe…

Before they start the questions, encourage them to work out the best strategy for a game like this. It’s long been known that the best players (including computers!) of traditional 20 questions are those who can eliminate roughly half of the possibilities each time. As logician Charlies Sanders Pierce said in 1901: Thus twenty skilful hypotheses will ascertain what two hundred thousand stupid ones might fail to do.

Great for building memory and inference skills.

4. "Not to worry"

"Waiter, my food is frozen!”
“Ah yes - not to worry! That's so you can enjoy your meal for longer while it thaws out.”
One of you runs/is selling the world’s worst restaurant, school, car or whatever, and is constantly trying to defend all the failings the other points out. Great for thinking on your feet and very funny.

5. Playfighting with words

You can do this with any question, whether it’s light or more serious. See what your child thinks and then play devil’s advocate for the other side. As with physical horseplay, the point isn’t to win, but to give to the child an opportunity to push back and test their strength in a playful, safe but challenging way. You can grab lots of questions at our sister website debateplanet.co.uk - or check out the suggestions here.

Interested in our online classes?

At our sister organisation, P4HE, we run live Zoom sessions on philosophy, debating, improv, Shakespeare, Art, Dungeons and Dragons, creative writing, "Breaking History", even a panel games mash-up called Meet the Teams.

There are classes for various age groups from 6-8s to teens. The same principles of lively, playful, thoughtful dialogue of P4C are at the heart of these sessions for home educators and schoolschoolers.

We also run quarterly "Weekenders" or "Weekers" where everyone who can get there meets in person to do similar stuff but "IRL"! Like our online classes, they're open to anyone who has a curious mind and wants something a bit different.

“I just wanted to, once again, send my most honest and heartfelt gratitude to you all for all your hard loving work and giving M such a wonderful experience.  She was definitely nerxcited as she would say, nervous+excited, but this experience for her was so much more. She is still giggling and smiling thinking of the play and all her learnings, experience and kindness she has experienced. She absolutely loves her Improv and Writers Room online classes with Charlie but this in person experience has been one that will also accompany her in her heart for her years to come, and that makes me infinitely happy because as her mother, to know she has been inspired and will carry good people in her heart means everything. So for so much, my most heartfelt thank you and looking forward for her to keep enjoying in person camps with you all.”

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"I cannot describe the buzz and vibe from the staff, all down to you."

"You really did create a huge buzz in school, which is a difficult shout on the first day back! You covered everything we wanted out of the training and gave us mountains of material to use in class.  I loved the fact you gave each phase some planning time to discuss ideas and plan sessions and then trial them out of colleagues.  You have definitely given us some inspiration and I am very excited to see what happens next."

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